Understanding driver-pedestrian interactions at unsignalized locations has gained additional importance due to recent advancements in vehicle automation. Naturalistic observations can only provide correlational data, of limited value for understanding and modeling the mechanisms underlying road user interaction. Therefore, controlled studies in virtual reality (VR) are an important complement, but conventional methods only accommodate a single human participant. Recently, there has been a surge in interest in studying interactions in VR, by means of distributed simulation, involving multiple human participants. However, there is a lack of validation of this method. Here, we provide a validation study, focusing on a distributed vehicle-pedestrian interaction setup, where pairs of one driver and one pedestrian interacted under various kinematic conditions in a connected virtual environment. To test the validity of the distributed simulation, we used a naturalistic dataset collected in the same UK city, at similar locations, and compared the observed behavior between the two settings. Our results indicate a good relative validity of the simulator study, where road users showed similar non-verbal communication behavior in both datasets. As an additional means of validation, we also leveraged a set of game theoretic models that were developed based on the simulator studies, and found that when applied to the naturalistic dataset, we obtained similar (although not identical) model selection results. This suggests that distributed simulation can also be useful for development of computational models of interaction. Overall, the findings suggest that distributed simulation can be a highly valuable tool for studying and modeling road user interactions.