We present a participatory process in the context of networked collaboration in the field of construction, and offer the concept of participatory attitude as having a key facilitating role in it. The concept is developed through reflexive narratives from the first five months of a sustainable renovation process. Characteristics of the participatory attitude identified here were sustained listening, bridging, demonstrating and eliciting. The attitude helped build mutual trust, which in turn engaged residents in reflecting on their everyday practices in relation to the future technical make-up of their home. Questions remain how well democratic aims were represented in the process. No residents were left behind, because system gaps were bridged.